My Journey So Far

At the age of 22, I found myself with an empty bank account, homeless and in a disastrously failing marriage that was filled with lies, scams and physical and mental abuse.

On top of that, I was finishing my degree, working a professional job and caring for my newly born twin daughters Sierra and Sienna, one of whom (Sienna) had severe medical issues.

Despite having my life threatened if I followed through with it, I left my husband and started over with my girls and whatever I could fit in my car.   I had been fired because of my husband, so I had to figure things out quickly.

I made a plan and quickly set action to that plan.  I think I was sort of on autopilot at this point.  God was gracious enough to allow me to be so focused on achieving the next step that I wasn’t able to wallow in the crud that was going on in my life at that time.  I found a professional job, and got my girls settled into a montessori school. 

It took me over a year to get my divorce finalized, but I kept pushing through all the red tape and through all of the games—and there were a lot of them.

Now I’m happily remarried (10+ years now) and my new husband has legally adopted my girls.  To them, he is Daddy.  He and Sierra have an insanely tight bond and Sienna idolizes Daddy.  I couldn’t have asked for a better Daddy for my girls.  Additionally, we finally found out why Sienna was so small and why she had so many medical issues.  We discovered that she was a very rare Primordial Dwarf.  In fact, she is believed to currently be the only female Primordial Dwarf with an identical twin.

My girls are now 15 years old.  Sienna is a spunky special-needs teen and we work on a variety of things daily in hopes of affording Sienna as much independence in the future as possible.  We home-school and Sienna has recently begun recording instructional cooking videos for special needs people like herself.  She also helps me with our Equal Restroom Access for Little People Movement and our children’s book series that focuses on teaching kids that they’re wonderful just the way they are.

Sierra is also home-schooled and I manage her music career.  She also has an actual dairy allergy, so we have to cook accordingly.  She recently obtained her Driver’s Permit. Oh my!  She is wise beyond her years and is dedicated and focused.  I attribute much of that to her devotion to caring for and helping her twin.

In addition to my children’s book series, I’m writing a fictional novel, have more in the pipeline, have had a radio talk show based on empowering women, am a fitness mentor to women, speak to both women and children about balance and perspective and am working on obtaining my real estate license.

As you can see, I have learned how to bounce back and have learned how to juggle.  Despite life’s ups and downs, I truly feel like I have it all.   I look forward to the rest of my journey and hope to help you have it all in your journey, as well.  Keep faith.  Keep moving forward and keep your head high.

 

“Therefore we also, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us,” Hebrews 12:1

6 Responsesso far.

  1. Brittany says:

    This is such an inspiring story of perseverance! God bless you and your family as you continue your journey 🙂

  2. I have a similar story… minus the children part 🙂 Married young, and the the WRONG guy… escaped a BAD situation and left with nothing. I’ve come a long way in the past 6 years! Neither of our stories are finished yet! 🙂

    • Chrissy Bernal says:

      Awesome to hear that you’re thriving now! 🙂 You’re right, the stories aren’t over for sure and the best is yet to come I’m sure. 🙂

  3. Shannon says:

    Wow I am blown away. What a inspartion you are. I am at a lost point in my life and reading this is truly reassuring that things will only bring you down if you let them. I am so glad I reached out to you and had this chance to read this!

    • Chrissy Bernal says:

      Awe, thank you very much. I’m so sorry you’re feeling like you’re at a lost point right now. Everyone experiences that at some point–and many times they experience it more than once. You’re very right, things will only be able to bring you down if you allow them power over you. I don’t know about you, but I’m too much of a “control freak” to let a situation hold power over the way I feel about myself. 🙂

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